Relationships are very a very special and remarkable thing when both parties are fully committed to one another. The feeling of comfort that you can have with each other when you feel that you can completely trust them is unimaginable.
Everyone wishes they could have that faithful man, unfortunately, not everyman is faithful. The trick is to look for signs that show that he may be cheating. This is just some areas that should throw up some red flags; it does not mean he is guilty; it may just means you need to check him out a little further. Here are some common and subtle signs that your man is cheating.
Frequent fighting over little things
This by itself does not mean he is cheating, it just means that if he is cheating you will probably go through this. Every relationship has its ups and downs, so don’t be too alarmed if you are having quarrels; however, if it is constant and it is him initiating the fighting, it might not hurt to pay attention to some of the other sings.
Getting Home Late
Now this is something to be aware of, now if he is someone who normally gets home late or has a verifiable reason like he works second shift; then obviously there is nothing to worry about. However, if he should be home early, but let’s say he “met up with some friends after work” on Monday. Then comes Wednesday, “he ran out of gas and umm. He had to wait for AAA to come and help him out, but they forgot to come – so he waited 2 hours and then called them back and they said it would be another hour before they would make it out, blah, blah, blah.” You might just have yourself a cheater!
Over Time
Is he suddenly working a lot of overtime? If he is hourly you can check this on his pay check; if he is salary, it is a little harder to verify. Call his work late to see if he answers; however, he will have an excuse for this if you ask him about it and you won’t know if he is lying or not.
What I recommend is if this is a problem, call him late at work. If he doesn’t answer, don’t mention it – then call every day he is working late for a 5 days. Then after the fifth time he is working late, when he gets back tell him you called him that day and he didn’t answer. Ask him why he did not answer. If he gives an excuse like, “well I never am by my phone when I am working late, because I am in a different room” then that is acceptable. But if he says “oh, I don’t know I must of just missed it”, then ask him if he is normally by his phone. If he says yes, ask him about the other day, see if he give a onetime excuse. If he does ask him about the day before that, you get the hint, catch him in his lies.
Frequent threats of seeing other women.
If every time you fight he threatens this, it might not be a threat but a confession.
Mood swings
Is your man excessively moody for no apparent reason, he could be cheating? If he was normally a calm guy, but lately he seems like he is picking you apart it may be time to look into this a little further.
Financial Carelessness
Look at the bank account is there a lot of expenses at restaurants that you did not go too. Is there a debit at a jewelry store; and you did not get any jewelry. If he is smart he would take out cash at the ATM and pay for everything in cash, so watch this too. If he is taking out larger than normal sums of money, ask him what it is going too. It could be going to another woman.
Is he calling you another name?
If he calls you Sandy and your name is Aimee, I think you might have a problem. If he does this, watch his face, he just gave it away. Do a quick review of everything else we talked about and if there are a lot of red flags, time to confront him.
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